Relationships between the two genders
He had a haraam relationship with a relative of his; is he obliged to marry her?will i be responsible for the cries of a girl, with whom i had sexual relations, if i marry some other girl, because of being afraid that our families wont agree, as we are cousins and the girl is not very religious? or should i marry the same girl as we mqy remain attached even after marrying some other person? or should i marry the same person itself?
Pre-marital relationships are not permissibleI am in a relationship with a guy who can not make up his mind to get married. I have not yet became a muslim and I will soon We have talked about this being wrong for us to be together and if he was back in Xyz , that he would not be able. I feel like wrong is wrong, and even if I hav not yet converted, that should not be the problem. His family wants him to come home, but when does a man have the right to make a choice? Maybe, because I am from the US I don't understand the whole thing about family. When you have a wife or someone to be your wife, is she not your family too? Please help me to do what is right. Salaam,
Women attending an educational seminar with men, in the same hallWith regard to lecture halls in which educational seminars are held, is it permissible to put the women at the back of the hall (lecture theatre), without a barrier in front of them, separating them from the men? Please note that if we put a barrier, they will not be able to see the activities. Or do we have to put them in a separate room, where they can watch and listen to the activities via closed-circuit television?
She got to know a man through the Internet and she wants to carry on talking to him and getting to know him because she wants to marry himI am a Muslim woman and I want to get married to one of the brothers whom I have met on the Internet. He is a convert to Islam and he lives abroad, and he has good character, but he does not have a job, but he will find one soon –– in sha Allah. As for me, I am in my final year of university, and my parents will not let me get married until after I have finished my studies; in other words, we have six months to wait. During this time we want to get to know one another better, so that each of us will know how compatible they are with the other, because we cannot introduce the topic to my guardian like that, without details about the person I want to marry, and I want to be certain that he is suitable to be a father in the future and able to spend on the family’s maintenance, and so on. In other words, I do not want to give my family any chance, even if it is slight, to reject this man. I have prayed istikhaarah, and it seems that what I have learned about him up till now is good. What do you suggest with regard to ways of communicating with him, within the bounds of modesty, moderation and Islamic teachings?
She is dating a Christian man and he has promised to become Muslim and marry heri am dating a christian guy who promise to convert to islam bt i dnt if he can still change back to christian if he marry me finish,am afraid i love islam and i dnt want to go into another religion.,and another person is asking for my hand in marriage though he is a muslim bt he is married early last year and am thinking it too early for him to talk about second wife.i need your advice.
He suffers from compulsive waswaas and speaks words of kufr; does he have to do anything?My question is: I am a young girl of 19 years who has received a proposal. He was my senior in high school and unfortunately we had a short lived haram relationship of talking to each other unlawfully. We both repented and he wants to marry me. His father is an apostate suffering from Bipolar type 2 disorder and Obsessive compulsive disorder. I read that OCD patients suffer from religious obsessions about the devil. Is he accountable for his apostasy due to his mental illness? secondly, he wants to know how to deal with this situation in the correct way as well as the rest of the family. his mother still lives with his father. Due to his illness, the father also caused financial ruin (linked to bipolar 2). What are the rights of the family in this case and the rights of the father over them? He is extremely non compliant with treatment. Lastly, if i do marry him, what kind of relationship should I and our children have with his father?
Is it permissible to study in a mixed educational centre with better qualified teachers, when there is another centre where there is no mixing but the teachers are less qualified?Here in Egypt, at the public secondary education level, students rely completely on classes offered in educational centres, because of the prevailing system. These classes include both males and females. Is attending these classes, whilst disapproving and denouncing that, a sin? If there is a teacher who does not allow mixing, but he is less qualified than the teacher who allows mixing, should I leave the one who is more highly qualified?
He wants to become Muslim for my sakeI am a young Muslim woman. I got to know a young Christian man over the Internet. He has told me that he wants to enter Islam so that he will be able to marry me. When his father found out that he is reading the Qur’an and visiting shaykhs, he got angry with him and threw him out of the house, and made him drop out of university. Now he has no place to live. I told him that the one who wants to enter Islam must do it for the sake of following the truth, and for the sake of Allah, not for the sake of anyone else. But he is insisting on marrying me, but I cannot marry him. I am afraid that if I tell him that, it will push him away from Islam, and I will be bear the sin of that, and I will be the cause of that and of the dispute between him and his father. Please advise me, what should I do?
He studies in a mixed environment and when he interacts with his female classmate she doubts his actionsThe learning environment am in forces me to be close to this particular sister in islam. I treat her with all da respect a muslim brother should give to a sister. However she doubts most of my actions to her, and most of my favours to her, even though she accepts them sometimes. please note that I dont do this very often or in a manner that would suggest evil thoughts. This behaviour hurts me, considering the fact that I know I am very much sincere in all that I do to her and I have no bad intentions. I always think of explaining this to her but the only thing that stops me from doing so is the hope that maybe by enduring the pain to myself I'll have a better reward infront of Allah in akhera, I haven't found another choice. Is there any or shuold I stick to the one I have?.
Is it permissible for him to enable his sister to see her suitor outside the home without his father’s knowledge?A young man who has memorised the Qur’aan (Haafiz al-Qur’aan) and is of good character has proposed to my sister, and there is tentative acceptance. But my sister has not seen him except fleetingly and I want her to see him in the manner prescribed in sharee‘ah before the engagement goes ahead, to ensure that they are compatible and feel comfortable about one another, but my father refuses to allow this seeing as prescribed in sharee‘ah and he wants the engagement to go ahead immediately. Is it permissible for my sister to see this young man as prescribed in sharee‘ah in my presence, but outside the home and without my father knowing about it? If it is permissible, what are the conditions?.
Contacting women via text messages for the purpose of work or personal mattersWhat is the ruling on directly texting the opposite gender? I am in an organization that requires communication with sisters. The brothers and the sisters must work together and so need to somehow communicate back & forth in order to facilitate/organize Islamic events and programs for the youth of our community here in the United States. And given today’s fast emerging technologies, texting seems to be the most convenient and this is what people use for the majority of their communication because it is instant & quick. What is the ruling if I text a sister directly about a matter regarding work for the organization? What about a personal matter? Would copying people on the same text make things better (to make it more than a 2-way conversation) for personal and professional matters? Where do we draw the line? Please explain all the limits & the rulings regarding this matter as it is becoming an issue of concern.
His daughter is in a relationship with her relative through chat and e-mail only; how should he deal with this problem?My daughter is 16 and she has been chatting with a relative who is 3 years elder than her. They insist that they are good friends and that they treat each other as siblings. My daughter is not the kind of girl who talks to guys freely. He is the only guy she has been talking to. She feels comfortable talking to him. They share secrets too. Is this wrong? And the relative she is talking to is not in the same country. He is overseas. So they cant meet. They dont talk on the phone too. They just email each other everyday. And chat once im a while. My daughter tells him everything. He tells her everything too. Even though he is overseas he will be well informed about her where abouts. They trust each other alot. As a parent me a teenage daughter. Im afraid this might leed to unexpected consequences. Im afraid they might become too devoted to each other and might want to spend the rest of their life together. I mean im afraid they might fall im love. They have been talking for two and a half years now. I always thought they will stop. But i dont think they will. Is this right?.
He was the cause of a love relationship at workI work in a government department in which there are male and female employees, and I was the cause of a love relationship between two people, because I told the girl, This young man likes you. They are still in an unlawful love relationship. We have tried several times with her father to get his daughter married to him so that this unlawful relationship will end, but without success. Is there any sin on me and what should I do? Please advise me.
Does a Muslim woman have to cover her face in the presence of a gay man?Is it obligatory for a Muslim woman to cover her face in the presence of a gay man (homosexual)?.
He told his Hindu girlfriend that he would give up his religion; what should he do?I live in uk and there was a hindu girl i was in love with and she forced me to say that i will convert and i said ya but it was like i just said in my heart i knew i wont and i never converted and on top of that i agreed to a few things that i shouldnt but just to keep her happy but not from my heart and now i think i have made a big mistake what do i need to do now?.
Ruling on teaching Qur’aan to a non-MuslimMy question is i have a close friend, who is intending to convert after she finishes her studies, she is very interested in Islam, and I've been teaching her verses such as Al-fatiha and Ayat Al-Kursi off by heart, and she has very willingly learnt them off by heart, is this permissable though because at the moment she is not muslim yet?
His sister is studying in a mixed university; should he spend on her?My younger sister lives in Bangladesh and is living in Dhaka so that she can do her university degree. Is it okay first of all that she lives there with her sister and brother-in-law? I know sometimes that my sister is alone at home with the brother-in-law when her older sister if out. Is this okay? And secondly, is it okay for my younger sister to being going to a co-ed university in Dhaka? She is studying business and there are men and women studying together. Sometimes they have assignments which are given to them and they end up being in groups that have non-mahram men and women working together. Is this islamically acceptable? There is another university in Dhaka which is single-sex teaching. Should I send her there instead? And lastly, is it okay for me to finance my sisters education if she does not want to change universities and stays at the co-educational institute? Should I stop sending money for her education if the environment is not halal?.
He took some money from a girl with whom he had a relationship; does he have to give it back?I am a young man and I got to know a girl, and I stayed in touch with her for nearly 3 years. I used to talk to her on the phone and I used to meet her and I asked her once for money, and she gave me five thousand riyals. After a while, praise be to Allah, my Lord granted me enough provision to get married and I left this girl, and I told her that I wanted to give back the money that I took from her, but she refused and said, May Allah pardon you in this world and the Hereafter. And that happened with her several times. Now I do not know what to do. Should I take this money and give it in charity on her behalf, or what should I do?.
He is complaining that his wife is too easy-going in her interaction with her cousinMy wife went to visit her relatives and she used to stay up with her cousin until 3 a.m., and they were on their own. On two occasions she took a picture of him when he was sleeping, and on one occasion she kissed him and she was always sitting next to him. His wife was annoyed by this and I am too. I told her that what she did was wrong and that it is not permissible according to Islam, and she is religiously committed. I noticed that her cousin is excessively interested in her and she is more interested in him than is necessary and it is not normal. There have been some problems between us because of this matter. She says that he is like her brother. Please note that she is forty-three and he is thirty-three. Up until now she says that there is nothing wrong with the way she has behaved. When I went to visit them I saw many things that I did not like in their behaviour. Now I am very confused and she is saying: You are the father of my children and he is only my cousin and nothing more. Now we have had a lot of disagreements because of this matter and it could lead to divorce, and we have five children. I hope you will answer my question: is what she did correct?.
He got to know a girl through correspondence and wants to marry her, but he is confused by the contradiction between some fatwas about getting married in this wayI am looking for some advice about what I should do with regard to the girl I want to marry, but our relationship began through correspondence on the internet. I looked at the fatwas and found that some fatwas say that there is nothing wrong with that once it is established that the woman is religiously committed and her family are good. But I found other fatwas which warn against getting married in this way and say that it is essential to avoid it completely and cut off all ties and not get married in this way. What is the correct opinion, based on the Qur’aan and Sunnah? I hope that you can answer this question in detail because I am sure that many people are faced with this problem today with the increase in communication through the internet. May Allah bless you all.