The one who is overwhelmed by uncertainty should not pay any attention to his uncertaintyI read the words of Shaykh Muhammad Ulays in Minah al-Jaleel, “It is not stipulated, in the case of one who is overwhelmed by uncertainty, that he should think that something is most likely to be the case, because he is unable to reach that level of certainty. In his case, it is sufficient for him to have some doubt.” Could you explain to me what this means? How valid is it to act upon this?
Is It Permissible to Show Humility to Your boss?I am a university student, and I want to earn permissible wealth, so I can spend on myself and help my family with it as much as I can. The only obstacle to my finding a way of earning a living is my submissive and obsequious attitude towards many people, including my boss at work. My question is: isn’t showing submissiveness to anyone other than Allah a sin? Doesn’t that make wealth earned this way prohibited? How can I rid myself of this submissiveness and obsequiousness with the boss in particular and with people in general? I don’t mind if you advise me to read a book on this topic, as I love reading.
Ruling on using relaxants and sleeping pills to treat anxiety and insomniaI want to know the rulings concerning self-medication in Islam. I have been going through a rough time in my marriage. My husband neglects me (i do not know intentionally or unintentionally). He spends all his day on his computer or phone playing games, talking to friends, continuously. We dont have one conversation where his phone doesnt interrupt us. And he hardly spends two hours uninterrupted with me throughout the day. We have had many fights about this in the past 2 years but I decided to do sabr and stay silent. However, I feel depressed, rejected, restless, and lonely and I cant sleep. So i turned to muscle relaxants. The kind I use are available without a prescription but I feel that I am dependent on them now. I have alot of hopelessness and anxiety but as soon as I take a relaxant I sleep and wake up feeling calm. I wasn't prescribed this by a doctor. I have a history of not being able to sleep properly and I use such medications on and off. Their affect starts 30 to 40 minutes after taking the pill and lasts for 4 to 6 hours - but even after this the pills keep me mentally and physically calm. I know intoxicants are haram in Islam. Will using such pills through self medication also stop my prayer from being accepted for 40 days? Can you tell me about any and all rulings concerning this?
She feels that she is not happy in her marriageI’ve been married for about a year now and of that year I have only lived with my husband for the first three months, and the rest we have been partly estranged from one another. During this period, he and I have had poor communication and lived in two different countries due to mutual agreement , we speak two different languages although we are from the same country our communication is really poor. I married him thinking that he is a pious person due to his upbringing and family, but I couldn’t be more wrong. He always delays his prayers even if he can hear the calling, he gives me a hard time for waking him up for fair and makes up ridiculous excuses for not waking up, i.e I'm not waking him up sweet enough etc. Now I'm stuck in a marriage which I feel suffocated in; I tried my best to be a good wife but feel unwanted and not loved. He has made me feel insecure with everything I do as nothing is good enough. I don't feel like a women, let alone a human. Only Allah know how I have lived my whole life with the abused and emotional scars from a tender age which has caused trust and social issues due to my experiences. Mentally I can't take it anymore; I know it's Allah's test but it just hurts so much. I thought marriage will help me be closer to Allah but it hasn't. I have nothing; no job, friends or religious community I just live day by day in uncertainty. I don't want to go to hell and I feel this marriage has made me a worse person religiously than I was before.
Is the one who is suffering from psychological disorders accountable?I suffer from a condition called flat affect, which is a medical condition that causes me not to feel human emotions such as love, hate, anger, pity and compassion, or any other emotions, except very rarely and briefly. I do not feel any emotions even towards my father and mother. This began when I was fifteen years old and has lasted until now. My condition cannot be treated, and it will remain with me all my life. My question is: Am I accountable according to Islamic teachings or not? Do I have to pray, fast and give zakaah?
He is living alone and has no job, and he is blaming IslamI am loosing hope in Islam, due to a long period of difficulty. For the past 12-13 years now I have been unable to find a wife, or a job. Due to the amount of time I am spending alone, Shaitan is doing his work with me. I live alone, have no life partner, no job, no money and lots of time. Besides the odd phone call now and then, it can normally go 2-3 weeks for me to have a face to face conversation with anyone. I’m losing hope in Islam. Please tell me what to do
She wants to solve the problem of being silent with her husband and not being able to interact with him all the timeMy problem is that I do not speak much to people, especially my husband, so our house is usually quiet. My husband holds his mobile phone and I see him laughing loudly. When he sits with me, he asks me to talk to him and discuss issues with him, but at that time I feel that my mind is blank. He loves to joke a great deal, but most of it is lies and I do not like that. Sometimes I say to him: Do not talk about anyone, but he gets upset with me and says: You are too quiet. Even when we travel, we turn on the CD player, and if one of his friends calls him, he may talk to him for three hours or more, laughing and commenting, whilst I am sitting beside him. I want to change my life. Please note that I have a mild phobia. I have been married for three years, and I have a child. My husband’s hobby is reading, and he likes football and poetry.
She is suffering from flatus incontinence and stopped praying for a while because of that; she is asking for a remedyI am suffering from flatus incontinence (continually passing wind), to the extent that there was a time when I did not pray because of that. How can I pray with this problem?
The best remedy for treating compulsive intrusive thoughts (waswaas) concerning purification and other mattersI was not sure as to whether I had emitted maniy. When I checked it, I saw that it was yellow and dry, not like madhiy, because madhiy is viscous. But one of the characteristics of maniy is that you feel it when it is emitted, and you feel tired after it is emitted. But I did not feel these things. With regard to the smell, I know that it smells like the pollen of the date palm, but I do not know what the pollen of the date palm smells like. I know that its smell when it has dried is like the smell of eggs; when I checked it, I noticed that it had a smell, but it was not like the smell of eggs. Moreover, when I woke up, I felt some wetness even though I had not had a wet dream. Is it permissible to do ghusl for janaabah in this case, meaning when I am not sure? I want to be on the safe side, so is that permissible? Is it valid to combine ghusl for jaanabah with ghusl following menses and ghusl for entering Islam? I know that I should have done ghusl for janaabah before I got my menses, but every time I wanted to do ghusl to enter Islam, I was not sure whether my ghusl was valid, so I did not do ghusl for janaabah.
She asked her husband not to have intercourse with her because she suffers from genophobia, and she is asking for a solutionI have a friend, she is a very simple hearted person; she is married to a good man who takes care of her. The problem is that they have been married for 8 years. She hasn’t had any sort of relationship with her husband- and by that i mean, they don’t come near each other. She said to me she is very afraid and doesn’t want to do any kind of stuff like that. When she was first married she told her husband not to come near her at all , and she was crying; her husband said he won’t force anything upon her. So he also doesn’t go near her because he loves her and doesn’t want to see her upset. He does want children with her... and the family have been wondering why they are not having any children. My friend really likes her husband and he likes her to, but they don’t have that kind of close relationship . She is worried because she knows that in Islam having children is a blessing... and Allah may be upset with her as she is not having any sort of physical relationship with her husband. Could you please give me some advice about this?
She is suffering from psychological problems that have made her isolated from people; she is very frustrated and is asking for a remedyI am mentally exhausted. I have not mixed with people for twelve years. I live in a remote area and all my aspirations have come to naught, including study. My father has never worked hard or tried his best for us. I am suffering from mental illnesses. I pull out my hair (trichotillomania, hair-pulling disorder). I feel tense and I am afraid of other people. I suffer from shortness of breath and I hate myself. But my dreams are not dead yet and I am still optimistic. I offer supplication, but how can I free myself if I do not have any help? As for my father, if we go to him and complain, he gets angry, and sometimes he insults us or ignores us. My mother is worried about us, but her situation is like ours. Our future is hopeless. We hate society and maybe they hate us. I hope that you can help me, because I am very tired; I want to die. Maybe Allah will have mercy on me and save me from this hardship.
He is assailed by doubts because he no longer focuses on his prayerI hope that you can tell me how I can make myself enjoy and like obeying Allah and doing acts of worship. Every time I see foreigners who become Muslim, and how Allah has sent down tranquillity to them, I weep bitterly, because I want to be like them. Even when I listen to lectures and stories of the Prophets, and I listen to Qur’an, I weep and think of death and meeting Allah. I weep, but one or two hours after listening to Qur’an or religious lectures, I go back to my old ways, and I start taking prayer and many other matters lightly. I begin to doubt, thinking that I am drifting away from my religion and that I am going to apostatise. Many doubts come to my mind, and I cannot rid myself of these thoughts. A while ago, when I used to go out with my friends, I could not wait to come back home and pray two rak‘ahs, because prayer was very dear to me. Now I want to go back to the way I used to be, but I cannot. Even when I pray, I rush my prayer. I have begun to collapse. I am certain that the religion of Islam is the true religion, and I am afraid that I might die when there is some doubt in my heart, and my faith and deeds will not be accepted from me.
Intrusive thoughts come to him and he is afraid that the Shaytaan will take away his faithPlease pray for me to be made steadfast in adhering to the true religion, because I am suffering from troubles caused by the Shaytaan, who is trying his utmost to change my religion, then my trust in my Lord, then my self-confidence. I swear by Allah the Almighty that I am suffering in a way that no one knows except my Lord, may He be glorified and exalted. The Shaytaan is trying to take faith away from my heart and is trying to make me disbelieve and go astray – Allah forbid. He has even started to take the form of my character. Sometimes he utters the shaahadah, meaning that he says it in full with me, and he makes me doubt my intention in worship, such as joining me in the prayer and making me confused about my prayer, by means of compulsive intrusive thoughts, and he completes with me the recitation of Soorat al-Faatihah, the tashahhud and the tasleem. I am in an extremely serious situation regarding my faith, and I am afraid that he will achieve his goal by making me disbelieve or associate something with Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. I am afraid that he will cause trouble to other Muslims as well, by leading them astray or making them disbelieve. Please help me to rid myself of this trouble.
He thinks that he has been bewitched, but he does not want to ask for ruqyah so that he may be included in the hadith about the seventy thousand who will enter Paradise without being brought to accountA neighbour of ours is envious of us even though we show her respect and have never mistreated her, and she did witchcraft against us, by using some clothes of mine that had traces of my sweat. What is really strange is that I had seen her in my dream twice, pouring some kind of liquid over me that I did not know what it was, and I woke up in a panic, feeling afraid. We are a conservative family who love Islam, and we do whatever we can of righteous deeds, but we suffer from some problems and do not always get along, and we have a lot of troubles. Some time ago, I felt that something inside me had changed, and I was no longer happy, energetic and hard-working as I used to be. I began to get angry quickly, and to sleep all day and stay up at night, and I left two jobs for no reason. I can no longer control myself, and I feel as though someone is provoking me to do things. I feel tired and I am only 27 years old, and I have started to feel fed up. I have not been to see a raqi (one who does ruqyah) because I hope to enter Paradise among the seventy thousand who did not seek ruqyah. I tried to read Soorat al-Baqarah every day for forty days, but I could not do it. I tried several times, but every time I tried, I would see frightening dreams. I call upon Allah in my prayer, asking Him to cancel out this witchcraft. I feel that everyone in my family has been bewitched, and I do not know what to do; please advise me.
Treating waswasah by seeking refuge with Allah from the Shaytan and ignoring itI suffer from waswas (whispers from the Shaytan) having to do with the might of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and the idea that He has power over all things, as strange and illogical thoughts come to my mind that I try to suppress by invoking the power of Allah, but then I think that Allah is not able to do such things. Because of that, whispers come to my mind suggesting that I have become a disbeliever, and I do not know how to rid myself of this problem. I hope that you can advise me and guide me.
She is suffering from waswasah and is asking whether the scholars were affected by waswasah tooMy question is about waswasa. In my life, when I tried my best to practice Islam at that time I felt great waswasa. Still now I feel waswasa. Time by time it change its form. My question: does every believer feel waswasa? Famous scholars like ibn Taymiyyah and Imam Ahmad, did they feel waswasa? If they felt how they work a lot for Islam?
She is suffering from social phobiaI am suffering from a spiritual malady and social phobia. In the same year that I began to suffer the spiritual malady, I suffered some psychological problems and intrusive thoughts. I live in a European country, where social phobia is treated with behavioural therapy and medication. What is your view concerning behavioural therapy or psychiatric medicines? Should I seek treatment with the Qur’an and not seek any other medicine? Or must I seek treatment with the Qur’an and with psychiatric medicine?
She is not sure whether she went out of Islam; does she have to do ghusl?If a woman becomes Muslim during her period, is it acceptable for her to do one ghusl for both purification and entering Islam, after her period ends? If she became Muslim shortly after her period ended, a few hours or one day later, is it the same as the first case, and is it acceptable for her to do one ghusl for purification and entering Islam? I am Muslim, but I am not sure, I think I may have said something that made me a disbeliever; I repented to Allah and renewed my Islam before doing ghusl after my period ended. I am asking about these two cases, because it was at the end of my period, and I did not know whether my period had ended or not, so I do not know whether I renewed my Islam before the yellowish or brownish discharge had completely ended, or after that. Is there any difference in either of the two times when I renewed my Islam? I also remember that I have read that there is a difference if a woman becomes Muslim during her menses or after it, but as I said, I do not know when. What must I do? Can I do one ghusl with the intention of purifying myself and entering Islam?
Ruling on surgery to remove a defect from the faceI would like to know the ruling on having surgery to remove some marks from my face that have been very visible from the time I was a boy, and they affect my psychology, especially when meeting with people.
He has a lot of problems and feels jealous of othersI have a whole range of personal issues: from a low self-esteem to constant guilt over certain decisions that I can’t go back and change. Whenever I see happy Muslims, especially couples, I feel a sense of bitterness and envy, and would blame myself for being unable to have what they've got. One of my uncles told me these feelings are from the jinn and that I should seek ruqyah, but I worry that if I blame the jinn I'm just seeking a scapegoat over clearly psychological issues. What should I do?