Ruling on asking a suitor about the amount of his monthly salaryDo the family of a potential wife have the right to ask the suitor, at the time of proposal, about his salary and exactly how much he earns?
She swore to her fiancé that she would never leave him, then she called off the engagementI was engaged, and when I met my fiancé I put my hand on the Mus-haf and swore by Allah that I would not leave him unless he left me. Time went by, and there were many problems between us, so we separated. He has tried many times to get me back, but I refuse, even though I swore that I would not leave him. What should I do? Will Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, forgive me for my sin?
He is over fifty years old, and he wants to propose to a woman. Is it regarded as deceit if he dyes his beard a colour other than black?I am fifty-four years old, and I want to get married. My beard is white; if I dye it some colour other than black, will that be deceiving the woman and her family?
Is it permissible for a man to propose marriage to a woman whose previous husband has not divorced her from an improper marriage?What is the ruling on proposing marriage to a woman whose previous husband has not yet divorced her from an improper marriage?
a fiance to be alone with his fianceeI live in the US alone my parents back in my country resently one muslim brother proposed me marriage, but the problem is thet he also doesn't have anyone in the US So, he sais that we should know each other before marriage or engagement, and he insists on talking to me. I heared that wile seeing each other the third person from the family should be there, or at least the third person should be there. Is that true? And what if I talk to him alone, would it be considering zina?
Is it obligatory to inform a suitor of a possible health problem?One year ago I had an infection of the optic nerve (optic neuritis), which was treated. I consulted three doctors about the cause of it. The first doctor said: You have a small risk of being affected by multiple sclerosis (MS), the first symptom of which is optic neuritis. The possibility of that is, as I said, very small, and it cannot be proven that one is affected with it until after ten or fifteen years. Multiple sclerosis (MS) is a nerve disease that can lead to physical disability. The second doctor said that optic neuritis is caused by a virus, and told me that I do not have MS. The third doctor also ruled out MS. Now someone has come to propose marriage to me; do I have to tell him about this possible health problem?
Is it permissible to propose to a woman with whom the marriage contract was done but her husband is missing and they do not know anything about him?I proposed to a woman with whom the marriage contract with another man was done unofficially – meaning that it was not registered in the court – but now he is missing and no one knows anything about him. Does the woman have the right to ask for khula‘ and annulment of the marriage from her side in the absence of the husband? Do I have the right to propose marriage to this woman and do any marriage contract with her?
Several questions about proposing marriage to a womanI would like some information about the Islamic ruling on looking at the girl, when a young man proposes marriage: what is the ruling on that, and what has been narrated concerning it of verses and hadiths? Why was it prescribed, and what is the wisdom behind it? What should the young man ask the girl? For example: your future ambitions, your aim in life, your understanding of the concept of marriage; and various issues such as the ruling on seeing her more than once, how serious the man should be about marriage, and how long he should see her for – should it be half an hour, or an hour? What is the Islamic ruling on that? Is it permissible to do that or not, and what is permitted and what is forbidden? Can the man sit near her, and can they be next to one another? What part of her body can the woman uncover? I would like references and names of useful Islamic books that speak about this topic, even if it is only in a few chapters. And for the girl, what is required of her? Should she look natural or adorn herself lightly, without going to too much trouble or adding some cosmetic details that change her appearance?
Helping the suitor to see a picture of the woman to whom he wants to proposeMy maternal aunt wanted to get married, and she asked me to show her how to send pictures, so that she could send them to the man’s sister, and he would also see them. Did I commit a sin?
Ruling on telling his potential fiancée details about his workI am a single man, working for a company in Dubai, and I have a good income. I got a job in this company with a two-year contract, and I do not have any intention of extending this contract. Right now I am at the stage of looking for a wife. Is it essential for me to tell a future wife that this job of mine is temporary?
She got to know a man through the Internet and she wants to carry on talking to him and getting to know him because she wants to marry himI am a Muslim woman and I want to get married to one of the brothers whom I have met on the Internet. He is a convert to Islam and he lives abroad, and he has good character, but he does not have a job, but he will find one soon –– in sha Allah. As for me, I am in my final year of university, and my parents will not let me get married until after I have finished my studies; in other words, we have six months to wait. During this time we want to get to know one another better, so that each of us will know how compatible they are with the other, because we cannot introduce the topic to my guardian like that, without details about the person I want to marry, and I want to be certain that he is suitable to be a father in the future and able to spend on the family’s maintenance, and so on. In other words, I do not want to give my family any chance, even if it is slight, to reject this man. I have prayed istikhaarah, and it seems that what I have learned about him up till now is good. What do you suggest with regard to ways of communicating with him, within the bounds of modesty, moderation and Islamic teachings?
Is it obligatory to inform a suitor of hair growing on the face?It helped me a lot in making the discision I made elhamdullilah. Introduction. I am not married yet but Ive come to an age that people are interested but not lot have asked my hand because I am still studying. In our little community they dont ask hand of girls who are still studying, I dont know why, maybe they're afraid to be rejected? Allahu ahlam. But honestly I don't think I'll be able to be a good whife and a student at the same time but that is something I will think about when someone will come In Sha Allah. Question: I have a problem. Certain parts on my body ( legs, armpits, lips) are to hairy and I even have sideburns. I pluck it so it doesn't grow fast as when I shave it ( I do nothing with my sideburns). If you see me, so just my face cause I way hijaab en abaya, you would never tell that I have this issue. It's not that I let it grow, definitly not my armpits cause we are not allowed to alhmdoullilah. I have two question; - Should I better tell or not tell the man who will ask my hand about my condition ? And how, trough whom I should say it to him, cause I won't be sitting with him alone untill I got married and than it's to late i suppose.
Her father is addicted to alcohol and works for a Christian who sells pork; does she have to inform her suitor of that?I am a twenty-four-year-old woman and religiously committed, praise be to Allah. I have received a proposal of marriage from a young man who is of good character and religiously committed, and comes from a conservative and religiously committed family. When he asked about my father’s work, he was told that he is a butcher, but in fact he works as a butcher and salesman at the same time, for a foreign Christian man who sells pork and my father receives a wage for his work. In addition to that, my father is addicted to alcohol, something which tarnishes our honour and reputation. I am confused about my situation and I do not know whether I should tell my suitor frankly about these matters or not. If he asks me about them, how should I reply? Please note that I am not sure that he will marry me if he finds out the truth, and I want to get married so that I can live in a halaal manner after suffering a great deal because committing haraam things (in the past). I hope that you can advise me as to the right thing to do.
What is the ruling on someone who causes trouble between an engaged couple so that he will call it off and she can snag him?There is a woman who caused trouble between two people who were about to get married. She had intervened to resolve a problem between them, but she transmitted bad talk between them, saying that each of them had said bad things about the other. So they split up and there was a trade of insults and bad talk between them because of the words that had been falsely transmitted between them. Then the young man went and proposed to the girl who had caused trouble between him and the first girl whom he had wanted to marry. What is the ruling before Allah? Will there come a day when this man will realise that he unfairly mistreated the first girl or not?
Will getting married to someone who is possessed affect the children in the future?A.a am thinking of getting married but I have not settled on anyone yet.I have a cousin who am considering but she has a jin in her,so my question. Is can it affect a marriage and is it possible to get out of her and can it affect the children insha-Allah and what does the prophet saw say about such a marriage.
Can a Suitor Lie to the Non-Muslim Family of the Girl He Wants to Marry and Say He is UnmarriedLast year I came to know of this brother who teaches Islamic classes and also through da'wah work. He seems to be like a religious brother (Hafiz of Qur'an and organizes Islamic activities maasha'Allah), and Allah knows best. This brother will be getting married this year, and then wants to marry me next year insha'Allah (as I would like to get married after I graduate from unviersity insha'Allah)...so that would make me his second wife. The issue is - my family is not Muslim (non-practicing Shi'a, atheist, agnostic, etc) - since two male family members have spoken to me about the topic of polygamy already, I suspect that they would ask any suitor if he has other wives. I asked the person going between me and the brother how he could answer that...because I believe my family would only accept 'no, I don't' as an answer and if he said that, that would be lying. His response was that it is permissible to lie in this situation to prevent family ties being broken. I'm really unsure about if this would be a permissible situation for him to lie in? Do you think I should enter into this marriage? I would appreciate your advice.
She has received a marriage proposal from a young man who suffers from social phobiaI am a young woman, twenty-five years old. I have received a marriage proposal from a young man who is religiously committed and respectable, and is one and a half years younger than me, but he suffers from social phobia and extreme shyness, to the point that he told me frankly that he cannot imagine himself with a woman in a closed room. He told me that he is going to seek treatment and that he will get better after he has been married for a while. The problem is that I am very shy and I would like my husband to have a strong character, especially in sexual relations. I also suffered from waswaas with regard to purification, but I have been healed from that, praise be to Allah. My question is: should I accept this young man? Could our psychological problems affect our children in the future and cause them to inherit these mental illnesses?.
Advice on Marrying Daughter to New RevertMy daughter is in university, in the seventh year of medicine, and she is twenty-five years old. She has a friend who is married to an Algerian in Germany; they are both Algerian. This couple met a German businessman who said that he had become Muslim. He is fifty-one years old, divorced with two children, and he is looking for a religiously committed Muslim woman. He asked this couple for help and advice, and my daughter’s friend told him about my daughter. He contacted her via the Internet and tempted her with the offer of everything she is looking for, including completion of her specialised studies overseas. My daughter was impressed with this idea, and hastened to suggest it to the family. After studying the matter, we – her family – found the following problems: - We do not know anything about whether his Islam is genuine. - We do not know anything about his character. - We do not know anything about his true origins. - We do not know anything about his true intentions. - There is no compatibility in age. - There is no compatibility in social environment. - Our daughter’s children will not be Arabs. - He can find what he wants in Germany. This is as far as he is concerned; as far as our daughter is concerned, we can sum it up as follows: - There is no worry about the girl’s future, seeing that she is a doctor. - Alternatives are available in her own country, as there are plenty of young Algerian men - Preservation of Islamic and Arabic values is a religious obligation. Hence our family decided to seek your advice so that you can give us the shar‘i (religious) opinion on this matter; perhaps we have neglected some shar‘i aspect of the matter.
He lives in America and has done the marriage contract with her; can she travel to join him?I am a young woman living in Jordan, and I got engaged on the basis of a contract to a young man who is religiously committed and fears Allah, and he lives in America. We have been engaged for a year and a half, and he is still studying. My question is: is it permissible for me to travel to be with him and his mother until he finishes his studies, then we can go to where he is going to work? Please note that until now there is no place where we can get married and live together. In other words I would stay with him until he finishes his studies. Please note that I cannot stay away from him more than that, and my being with him will help him to keep away from the fitnah that surrounds him.
Is it permissible for him to enable his sister to see her suitor outside the home without his father’s knowledge?A young man who has memorised the Qur’aan (Haafiz al-Qur’aan) and is of good character has proposed to my sister, and there is tentative acceptance. But my sister has not seen him except fleetingly and I want her to see him in the manner prescribed in sharee‘ah before the engagement goes ahead, to ensure that they are compatible and feel comfortable about one another, but my father refuses to allow this seeing as prescribed in sharee‘ah and he wants the engagement to go ahead immediately. Is it permissible for my sister to see this young man as prescribed in sharee‘ah in my presence, but outside the home and without my father knowing about it? If it is permissible, what are the conditions?.