Is it mustahabb for the woman to do wudoo’ before having intercourse a second time, as it is the man?

Question: 169627

In one of your fatwas you say, the man should say a duaa before having sexual intercourse with his wife and also that he should do Wudoo if he has sexual intercourse more than once. Does same apply also to the woman? Can she also say the duaa, when the man is too “distracted”?.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

Firstly:

The du‘aa’ that is to be said before having intercourse is
prescribed for the man, but there is nothing wrong with the woman saying it.
See the answer to question no.
95742

Secondly:

It is Sunnah for the man, if he has intercourse with his wife
and wants to do it a second time, to do wudoo’ in between, and if he does
ghusl, that is more proper.

It was narrated that Abu Sa‘eed al-Khudri (may Allah be
pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) said: “If one of you has intercourse his wife and wants to
repeat it, let him do wudoo’ in between.” Narrated by Muslim, 466. According
to a report narrated by Ahmad (10795): “Wudoo’ as for prayer.” Its isnaad
was classed as saheeh by Shu‘ayb al-Arna’oot in his commentary on Musnad
al-Imam Ahmad, 3/28

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was
asked: If a man has intercourse with his wife and wants to do it a second
time, what should he do?

He replied:

In this case there are three levels:

(i)Doing ghusl before doing it
again, and this is the highest level

(ii)Doing wudoo’ only before doing
it again, and this is of lesser status than the first

(iii)Not doing anything, neither
ghusl nor wudoo’; this is the lowest level, but it is permissible.

But what should be noted is that they should not sleep
without having purified themselves by either wudoo’ or ghusl.

End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa, 11/157

This Sunnah applies specifically to the man, because it is
addressed to him, as it says in the hadeeth of Abu Sa‘eed (may Allah be
pleased with him) quoted above.

The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas
were asked (19/350):

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “If one of you wants to
go back to his wife (and have intercourse a second time), let him do
wudoo’.” Does this ruling apply to the man only, or does it also apply to
the woman?

They replied: Wudoo’ is prescribed when wanting to have
intercourse again for the man, because he is the one who was instructed to
do that, not the woman. End quote.

Al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah li’l-Buhooth al-‘Ilmiyyah wa’l-Ifta.

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