How can she rid herself of lesbian desires?

The advice we can give to this girl is
that haraam desires and addiction to immoral practices must be confronted
with all decisive measures, which may be bitter and difficult, but they
offer protection against that which is worse and more evil, and they guard
against doom in this world and the hereafter. In order to achieve that, it
is not sufficient to take some measures that are doomed to failure. Any
attempt that does not begin by cutting off the causes of temptation from the
root does not deserve to be called an attempt and it does not give an excuse
to carry on with that sin. 

Therefore – if that girl is really sincere
in her wish to deal with the problem – we state here that the first remedy
is to shun the other girls with whom she is engaging in the sin of
lesbianism, and to keep far away from the places where they live, and to cut
off all means of communication with them and erasing all contact
information, such as emails, phone numbers and the like in such a way that
it will not be possible to retrieve them after that. She will feel some pain
and psychological distress because of what she is going to give up the bad
habits of the past. But she must be patient, put up with it and persist in
making progress with this remedy, and she should try to keep herself busy
with permissible beneficial actions that will take up her time, or with
study and seeking knowledge, or training in professional skills that are
appropriate to her age and gender. Expert psychologists confirm that six
months after giving up the sin is sufficient to forget it and be able to
move on, and to protect oneself against easily going back to it. 

Islamic scholars prefer this kind of
remedy, which involves cutting off ties, as we see in the hadeeth of Abu
Sa‘eed al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), according to which the
Prophet of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among
those who came before you there was a man who killed ninety-nine people,
then he asked who the most knowledgeable man on earth was, and he was
directed to a monk. He went to him and told him that he had killed
ninety-nine people; could he repent? The monk said no, so he killed him,
thus completing one hundred. Then he asked who the most knowledgeable man on
earth was, and he was directed to a man of knowledge and said that he had
killed one hundred people; could he repent? He said: Yes, who could stand
between him and repentance? Go to such and such a land, for therein there
are people who worship Allah, so go and worship Allah with them, and do not
go back to your own land for it is a bad land. So he set out, then when he
was halfway there, death came upon him. The angels of mercy and the angels
of torment disputed over him. The angels of mercy said: he came repenting
and turning wholeheartedly towards Allah. The angels of torment said: He
never did anything good. Then an angel in the form of a man came to them and
they appointed him (to decide) between them. He said: Measure the distance
between the two lands, and whichever is closer, that is where he belongs. So
they measured it and they found that he was closer to the land that he was
heading for, so the angels of mercy took him.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3470) and Muslim
(2766) 

Imam an-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on
him) said: 

The scholars said: This indicates that it
is recommended for the one who has repented to leave the places where he
committed sins and the friends who helped him to do that; he should cut off
ties with them so long as they are still sinning, and instead keep company
with good and righteous people, knowledgeable people and pious worshippers,
whose example he can follow and he can benefit from mixing with them and
consolidate his repentance.

End quote from Sharh Saheeh Muslim
(17/83) 

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy
on him) said: 

This highlights the virtue of moving from
the land in which a person committed sin, because it is most likely that
habit will overtake him in such a place, either because he will be reminded
of the things that he did in the past and be tempted to do them again, or
because of the presence of those who used to help him and encourage him to
commit those actions. Hence the last person said to him (the repentant
sinner mentioned in the hadith): “and do not go back to your own land for it
is a bad land.” This indicates that the one who repents should leave the
situations and places that he used to frequent at the time when he used to
sin; he should leave all of them and focus on other things.

End quote from Fath al-Baari
(6/517) 

This is the remedy indicated by the Holy
Qur’an before the prescribed hadd punishments were ordained, in order to rid
society of the effects of sexual immorality, as in the verse in which Allah,
may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And those of your women who commit
illegal sexual intercourse, take the evidence of four witnesses from amongst
you against them; and if they testify, confine them (i.e. women) to houses
until death comes to them or Allah ordains for them some (other) way”

[an-Nisa’ 4:15]. 

We have previously mentioned some of the
means that may help one to give up this sin. Please see fatwas no.
101169 and 104078 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on
him) said: 

The remedy to the problem of emotional
attachment and falling in love may be discussed from two angles: 

1.Prevention before
it happens

2.Eradication after
it happens

Both are easy for the one for whom Allah
makes it easy, and are difficult for the one whom Allah does not help, for
Allah is in control of all things. 

As for the means that will prevent this
problem from happening in the first place, there are two things: lowering
the gaze and focusing on that which will prevent one from falling into such
things.

End quote from al-Jawaab al-Kaafi
(178-181) 

With regard to what this girl is asking
about, namely the ruling on her marrying a gay man so that after that she
will be able to continue lesbian practices without anyone watching her or
criticising her, that would lead to her doom and being prevent her from
taking steps to repent, because by doing that she is planning to continue in
her sin and make it easy to do so, and even to look for new partners. This
means that she will be able to get to know gay men and marry one of them
after agreeing on each spouse having the freedom to engage in perverse
practices. But Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is watching them and
giving them more time to repent, whilst they are indulging in sin. It is as
if they have never read the words of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted,
(interpretation of the meaning):

“This is because they defied and
disobeyed Allah and His Messenger. And whoever defies and disobeys Allah and
His Messenger, then verily, Allah is Severe in punishment”

[al-Anfaal 8:13]

“And those who invoke not any other
ilaah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden,
except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse __
and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.

69. The torment will be doubled to him
on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;

70. Except those who repent and believe
(in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will
change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful

71. And whosoever repents and does
righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allah with true
repentance”

[al-Furqaan 25:68-70]. 

Our message to this girl is that she
should fear Allah, may He be exalted, with regard to her own self, and her
religion and community, and indeed all of humanity, lest she be a cause of
people being led into this perversion and deviating from sound human nature.
She should constantly bear death and the grave in mind, when she will be
alone beneath the soil for ever, and there she will have nothing to comfort
her but her righteous deeds. As for perverse desire, it will be a cause of
loneliness, darkness and punishment. 

It was narrated that Abu Hamzah said: I
said to Muhammad ibn ‘Ali ibn al-Hanafiyyah: Did Allah punish the women of
Loot’s people for the deeds of their men? 

He replied: Allah is too just to do such a
thing; the men were content with men and the women with women. 

Hudhayfah (may Allah be pleased with him)
said: Punishment became due for the people of Loot when the women were
content with women and the men with men. 

Both reports were narrated by Ibn
Abi’d-Dunya in Dhamm al-Malaahi (no. 145, 149) 

In fact this woman is weak and poor, and
in need of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. So advise her not to
hesitate to raise her hands in supplication and ask Allah, may He be
glorified, to help her to obey Him and to refrain from sin, to forgive her
for what has happened in the past and to protect her in the future. Allah,
may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And those who, when they have
committed Fahishah (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) or wronged themselves
with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; – and none can
forgive sins but Allah – And do not persist in what (wrong) they have done,
while they know.

For such, the reward is Forgiveness
from their Lord, and Gardens with rivers flowing underneath (Paradise),
wherein they shall abide forever. How excellent is this reward for the doers
(who do righteous deeds according to Allahs Orders).

Many similar ways (and mishaps of life)
were faced by nations (believers and disbelievers) that have passed away
before you (as you have faced in the battle of Uhud), so travel through the
earth, and see what was the end of those who disbelieved (in the Oneness of
Allah, and disobeyed Him and His Messengers)”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:135-136]. 

Let her try again, when she repents
sincerely and starts to implement the correct remedy, to get married in the
permissible manner, and let her ask her Lord to bestow upon her guidance,
piety, chastity and independence of means, and to help her find in that
which He has permitted that which will leave her in no need of that which He
has prohibited. 

And Allah knows best.