Can She Marry With Health Complications

Question: 417352

I have strong istihada for a Week every month and when I dont have Istihada I often have ccolored discharge

I have inconsistent wind incontinence,

I have constiplation nearly every time.

Sometimes I blead from the back when I releave myself

Sometimes I can't make it to the toilet in time because my bladder gets full really fast (even if I didnt drink oder eat anything but was just sleeping and I wake up..i have to go to the toilet urgently)

While fasting I often have something like reflux but it's not eat which comes up my throat but I guess spuntum.

I went to the doctor and the only way that Worked out to stop istihada is to take the pill and I have Fructose Intolerance and Iam allergic to many other things..which because of its quantity is difficult to completely avoid.

I dont think that with those things I can live in a marriage (even though i would love to get married) but as you are male sheikhs I would like to know your point of view.

Would you marry a women who has all of this illnesses and it affects her life ( spends long time in bath, takes very long to perform prayers because of gas and loses wuduu really fast, spits very often while fasting ramadan)

Answer

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

Firstly:

We ask Allah to heal you and grant you well-being, and we advise you to consult doctors as all that you have mentioned has a treatment, Allah willing. Abu Dawud (3874) narrated from Abu Ad-Darda' (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Indeed, Allah has sent down both the disease and the cure, and He has appointed a cure for every disease, so treat yourselves, but do not seek cure through what is prohibited." Authenticated by Al-Albani.

Secondly:

The ailments you mentioned do not preclude you from marriage according to shari`ah, provided that you inform the suitor; because anything that repels one of the spouses from the other is considered a defect that must be disclosed, such as irregular bleeding and the need to prevent pregnancy. However, if it is likely to be resolved and you are being treated for it, then you are not obliged to disclose it.

Please see the answer to question number 146988 .

Irregular bleeding does not last only a week, but rather it exceeds fifteen days, so it appears that what you experience is menstruation, which is a common matter for women.

As for men's desire for a woman who is afflicted with several ailments, there are women who get married while suffering from much greater ailments, because marriage has multiple purposes. A man may not desire to have children and thus marries someone who cannot bear children. A woman may be beautiful, and he finds comfort in her beauty and endures her illness. He may marry someone to raise his children, or he may marry out of kindness and honor, among other reasons. Therefore, we see women getting married who are blind, mute, paralyzed, suffering from heart disease, or other chronic illnesses.

So, when a suitor comes to you, seek guidance from Allah the Exalted and do not refuse marriage. We ask Allah to grant you a swift healing from what you have mentioned.

And Allah knows best.

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