Ruling on marrying a sufi woman

Firstly: 

Sufis are of
various kinds with various schools of thought, most of which follow
innovation and deviant ways of various kinds. Some of them exceed the proper
bounds to the extent of associating others with Allaah, may He be exalted,
such as praying to the dead, turning to them to relieve distress and ward
off calamity. Some of them follow a great deal of innovation in their deeds,
in dhikr and in worship. See question no.
4983 for more
information on some of the deviations of the Sufis, and question no.
34817 for
information on shirk and its types. 

It says in
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah: Most of those who are called Sufis
nowadays follow innovations of shirk, as well as other innovations, such as
what some of them say, “Madad ya sayyid (Help, O Master)”and their
calling upon the aqtaab (highest ranking awliya’ or “saints”), reciting
dhikr in unison and calling upon Allaah by names that He has not called
Himself, such as “Huwa Huwa (He, He)” and “Ah, ah (a
contraction of the name of Allaah)”. Anyone who reads their books will
notice a lot of their innovations of shirk as well as other evils. End
quote. 

Secondly: 

Marriage to
a Sufi woman is subject to further discussion. 

1 – If she
is one of those who commits shirk in belief or in deeds, such as one who
believes that the awliya’ (“saints”) have knowledge of the unseen and have
control over the universe, or she believes in incarnation of the divine or
the unity of all things, or she devotes worship to something other than
Allaah, such as du’aa’, seeking help, sacrifices or vows, then it is not
permissible to marry such a woman, because she has committed major shirk –
Allaah forbid.

2 – If she
has not fallen into shirk, but she does some acts of innovation such as
celebrating the Mawlid (Prophet’s birthday) or invented forms of dhikr, or
reciting a certain number of dhikrs for which there is no basis, or a
certain manner of dhikr that is not proven in sharee’ah, then it is better
not to marry such a woman, because the danger of innovation is great, and
the harm caused by it is severe. It is dearer to Iblees than sin, because
one may repent from sin, unlike innovation, for the one who does it regards
it as part of religion by means of which he may draw closer to Allaah, so
how can he give it up? Moreover, marriage to a woman who follows bid’ah
presents a danger to the children and to the whole family, especially if the
woman speaks well or is of a good attitude, so that others may be deceived
by her. Imam Maalik (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Do not marry the
people of innovation, or give your womenfolk to them in marriage, or greet
them with salaam… al-Mudawwanah (1/84). 

Thirdly: 

If he did
not know that the woman was a follower of Sufism until he married her, then
if she is of the first type that commits shirk in word and deed and belief,
he should call her (to the proper way) and advise her and explain to her. If
she responds, then praise be to Allaah, otherwise it is obligatory to
separate from her, because it is not permissible to marry a mushrik woman or
to remain in such a marriage, because Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning): 

“And do
not marry Al-Mushrikaat (idolatresses) till they believe (worship Allaah
Alone)”

[al-Baqarah 2:221]

But if she
is of the second type, which does some innovated actions that do not reach
the extent of kufr, then each case should be examined separately – to what
extent does the woman adhere or not to the innovation that she believes in,
and what effect will that have on the household and the children? 

He should
also look at the consequences of divorcing her, and he should do that which
is in the best interests of Islam in each case, and which will ward off harm
or reduce it as much as possible. 

May Allaah
help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. 

And Allaah
knows best.