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She insulted him and his family, so he divorced her three times

Question: 103421

I am a Tunisian man. I knew a girl from Tunisian origin but has French nationality. She used to imitate westerners in the way they dress and deal with others. I urged her to pray and wear hejab, and I found that she responds. After she wore the hejab I proposed to her. Few months after our engagement she returned to her previous way, and said to me that she will pray and wear hejab after marriage. I married her thinking that she will be better after marriage and being away from the bad companions. I always was reminding her of Islam. Her mother used to say to her, and still is saying: “you still young, live your life to its full, it is not the time to pray and wear hejab now”. I used to stay patient when she insults me all the time.  

Now my wife is in France. She is eight months pregnant. And I am in Tunisia; I left my job and waiting to get the visa to join her there.  

I am jealous for my religion. I want her to leave all the strange habits she used to do and to return to her mind, but she insists on what she is doing. I had enough of this; so we had a problem over the phone. She insulted me, my mother and all my family using words I have never used in my life.  

In a second of anger I said to her in French: “you are divorced, you are divorced, you are divorced” this time I had the intention of giving her a final divorce.  

I am very confused. Please tell me what I should do. We are expecting a baby! I know I said this due to my rashness. Allah decreed and what he decreed has happened. I am waiting for your answer.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.


It is a grave error for a man to hasten to utter the word of
divorce, because that may lead to the breakdown of his family when he does
not intend it to. Allaah has not prescribed divorce to be a means of venting
anger, rather He had prescribed it to be used by a man at times when he
wants to end a marriage where there is a reason for doing so. 

Based on that, you should guard your tongue and resist
uttering the word of divorce at times of anger and of contentment. 


When a man utters divorce in anger, one of three scenarios
must apply: 

1 – His anger is mild in the sense that it does not affect
his will and choice. In this case his divorce is valid and counts as such. 

2 – His anger is so intense that he does not know what he is
saying and is unaware of it. This divorce does not count as such because he
is like the insane man who is not held accountable for what he says. 

Concerning these two scenarios there is no difference of
opinion among the scholars. There remains the third scenario which is: 

3 – Intense anger which affects a man’s will and makes him
say words as if he is compelled to do so, but he regrets it as soon as his
anger dissipates, and it does not reach a level where he does not realize
what he is doing and has no control over his words or actions. The scholars
differed concerning the ruling on this type of anger. The most correct view
– as Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said – is that it does
not count as a divorce either, because the Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no divorce and no manumission at the
time of coercion.” Narrated by Ibn Majaah (2-46); classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (2047). The scholars interpreted coercion as
meaning compulsion and intense anger. 

This view was favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may
Allaah have mercy on him) and his student Ibn al-Qayyim, who wrote a famous
essay on the topic entitled Ighaathat al-Lahfaan fi Hukm Talaaq

See also the answer to question no.

Based on this, if your anger reached this level and this is
what made you utter the words of divorce, and were it not for this anger you
would not have divorced her, then the divorce does not count as such in that


If a man says to his wife: ‘You are divorced, you are
divorced, you are divorced” or “You are thrice divorced”, this counts as a
single divorce (talaaq). This is the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn
Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) and his student Ibn al-Qayyim. Among
contemporary scholars it was regarded as most correct by Shaykh Ibn
‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him). See al-Sharh al-Mumti’

And Allaah knows best.


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