Does the brother have the right to object to his sister’s marriage and to threaten to cut her off when her father agrees to it?
Question: 176361
There is a Muslim woman who was married to a Muslim man and they had a child, then soon after that the Shaytan caused her to slip, and she started to go to nightclubs where she got to know a kaafir man and a relationship developed. Then she took her son and went to live with that man unlawfully, after leaving her religion and giving up Islam. Then a year after that, she repented and left her boyfriend; she entered Islam again and began to wear Hijab and pray, and she mended her ways completely. She went back to her parents and asked them to forgive her, and they forgave her.
Then a few years after that, that boyfriend became Muslim and he came to her house and asked her father for her hand in marriage, and the father agreed, as did she. But her brother did not agree, and he was very upset to see the man who had committed immoral actions with his sister, and for whose sake she had left Islam and abandoned her husband. It upset him to see him as his sister’s husband, so he did not agree to the marriage at all and he threatened to cut off all ties with his sister if she married him, and said that he would never speak to her again after that day.
This behaviour upset his parents greatly; they do not want to see their children fighting. Hence the father tried to remind his son of the rights of kinship and tell him that it is not permissible to sever those ties and that Allah has enjoined upholding those ties.
But the son refused to accept that and he said that it is within his rights to cut her off and that this is a right guaranteed by Islam.
My question is: is this a right that is guaranteed by Islam?.
Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.
The blessing
of guidance is one of the greatest blessings that Allah, may He be exalted,
can bestow upon His slave. It is obligatory for the slave who has been
guided to show a great deal of gratitude to his Lord for this immense
blessing. We are happy to hear of the repentance of those who have repented
and of the guidance of those who have been guided. What has happened of that
man being guided from kufr to Islam, and that woman being guided and brought
back to Islam, and giving up living the life of the doomed people, is
something that brings joy to our hearts and we ask Allah to make them
steadfast in Islam and to set their affairs straight.
If a Muslim
who is not related feels happy to hear the news about this sister being
guided and coming back to her religion, then one would expect that her
family would be the happiest of people, because her leaving her religion,
going away from them and agreeing to live with a kaafir foreigner in an
unlawful manner causes a great deal of distress and it is something that
many people could not bear. Hence we advise this brother to fear Allah, may
He be exalted, and to not be hasty in his decisions and not be a cause of
harm to his family or cause division among them. In fact he may be a cause
of something that is even worse than that; he may be a cause of his sister
going astray a second time. No one knows what ideas of misguidance the
Shaytaan may instil in the minds of those who have been guided.
As this
woman’s father has agreed to let this man who has been guided to Islam marry
his daughter, the brother has no right to object to his father and threaten
to cut off his sister. Yes, he has the right to express his opinion and he
has the right to discuss the matter with his family and his sister. But they
do not have to comply with his opinion or accept it.
In this case
we say: this brother does not have the right to cut off his sister, because
her marrying that one who has been guided is not haraam. What sin has his
sister committed by agreeing to marry that man, such that he has the right
to cut her off?
Although we
say that marriage to that man is permissible according to Islam, and that
the brother’s objections carry no weight and he has no right to cut off his
sister if she agrees to marry him, nevertheless we advise the father and the
sister to think again about their agreeing to that man, and they should
listen to the other side and discuss the matter with wise people who are
close to them and who are aware of the background. It is also essential to
investigate this suitor and find out how sincere he is in his Islam before
he comes to propose to this sister, and they should find out whether he
really is interested in Islam.
We ask Allah
to guide everyone to that which is in the best interests of the family and
to help them to find the right way and to unite in following it.
And Allah
knows best.
Source:
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