A Christian man married to a Muslim woman wants to help her to fast

Question: 233793

It may be a strange question to you as you probably would have much to criticize about my wife and me- starting with the fact that we are together in the first place -but still I dearly appreciate your practical advice and guidance for that most holy month.

My Muslim wife and I live in the West, I was born here and Im a Christian. We met in Dubai 4yrs ago and got married 1.5 yrs ago, and this is my wifes 1st yr away from home and her family during Ramadan. She enjoys life in the West and found a balance between her tradition and religion and the Western way of life. We’re in love and very happy how we live. However,during Ramadan,she is really struggling with the culture because although people are understanding, the whole environment is just not well suited to Muslims in this period (e.g. everyone eating during lunch break).I try to support her as much as I can and would like to know what else I can do to help. Here’s what I already do:

-no alcohol (ever)

-no pork (ever)

-fast with her during Ramadan

-I don’t go out/appointments during the month to be at home with her

-no visitors during the month
I know the environment is difficult for her in this time, and I suggested that in the next years she should go to Dubai and her family during Ramadan.Is this reasonable, or do you think she can manage to celebrate Ramadan as it should be, even while being here?Pls bear in mind she has no family here.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

Yes, the matter is indeed strange as you said.

But what is strange is not merely the fact that a Christian
man has married a Muslim woman, even though this marriage is definitively
prohibited in Islam, according to scholarly consensus. That is not the only
strange thing about this case, for the Shaytaan deceives many of the
children of Adam, until he causes them to fall into something that is even
more abhorrent than that.

What is even stranger is your concern to ask about such a
thing, you and your wife, or – to be more precise – your concern to help
your wife in such a matter, which is indicative of your great care for her
and your desire that she be happy, when you do not care about the most
serious aspect of the relationship between you.

What we mean is the basis of this invalid relationship
between you, which is fundamentally wrong.

Therefore we will address you directly, as you are the one
who has asked us and you are the one who is responsible for this grievous
mistake, and tell you that it is not permissible for you or for this woman
to continue in this relationship at all, not even for a single hour. Rather
what you must do is separate, for she is not your wife and is not
permissible for you, and you are not permissible for her so long as you
remain a Christian.

Regardless of whether you spend Ramadan in the east or in the
west, in Dubai, or in the city of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him), or in Berlin, none of that will change the matter in the
slightest, and will not fix the basic flaw in the relationship between you.

Rather you must separate.

Then once you have separated, it is not permissible for you
to go back to her unless you truly seek Islam because it is the final
religion of Allah, that He loves for His slaves and wants from them.

Therefore we call upon you – as you are keen to make your
wife happy and make things easy for her – to leave her immediately, because
her staying with you means that she will lose out a great deal in religious
terms, which would result in misery for her in this world and the hereafter,
if Allah does not shower her with His forgiveness and mercy. Then you must
spend some time reading about Islam and learning more about it. The Islamic
centres in your country can help you with that.

If Allah opens your heart to Islam and you become Muslim,
then in that case there would be no impediment to you marrying her with a
new marriage contract, in accordance with the teachings of Islam, whenever
you both want to do that.

Then you can begin your married life with sincere repentance
that will erase the errors that came before it, for Allah, may He be
exalted, forgives those who repent and turn back to Him, no matter what sins
they committed before that.

We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to guide you to the truth.

For more information, please see the answers to questions no.
100148 and 230057

And Allah knows best.

Source:

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