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He is complaining of a problem between his wife and his sisters

Question: 32731

My sisters do not like my wife and are always causing problems. Please advise me: should I cut off ties with my sisters or with my wife?.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

Allaah has
enjoined upholding of family ties and kind treatment of one’s wife. We will
never tell you to sever your ties with your sisters or with your wife.
Rather we tell you: bring them together and do not make the division worse. 

Love comes
from Allaah. He has created causes of love and causes of hate. So you have
to look at your relationships and seek out the causes of hate and enmity so
that you can remove them. And you should try to bring in the causes of love
so as to encourage it. These causes include: greeting with salaam, giving
gifts, visiting people when they are sick, helping at times of need, and
many other things which Islam tells us strengthen bonds and generate love
among people. 

In order to
calm both sides down, you also have to remind each of them of Allaah and His
warning against gossiping, insulting, slandering and interfering in people’s
private affairs. 

Adhering to
the limits set by Allaah and giving each party their rights, and respecting
the rights of the other party and not belittling them or annoying them, will
also guarantee happiness and peace in the house and in your relationships. 

You have to
advise your wife and your siblings to treat one another well, and try to
remove the problems and disputes that exist between them. If your wife and
siblings are living in the same house, there is nothing wrong with you
giving your wife her own accommodation, if you cannot reconcile between
them. Indeed, this may be a means of removing the disputes between them. 

Our advice
to your wife is that she should be friendly towards her husband’s family and
treat them kindly as much as she can, without doing anything that is
forbidden according to sharee’ah. Respecting her husband’s family will make
the relationship between her and her husband remain as good as it can be. 

May Allaah help you all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him. May He guide you to the best of words and deeds and attitudes. 

And Allaah knows best.

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