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Married to a man who neglects the prayer: what should she do?

Question: 4131

Asalama calaykum warahmatullah
I am marreid to a man who is TARIKU salaat
I mean he neglects the salaat. when I marreid him i was like him, Alhamdulillah ALLAH has
guided me, now I am a practising muslimah. but the problem is him, every salaat he is
preying is like I am forcing him, I treid every thing but nothing is working, same people
said you have to leave him but it isn’t easy I have three childern with him, and he is
good father and husband. The problem between us is the DEEN. Please what shoul I do.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

We put the following question to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih
al-Uthaymeen:

I am married to a man who neglects his prayer. Allaah has guided me and
I insisted that he should pray, so he started to pray as if he was forced to do so. He has
clearly told me, I am only praying because of you. Is it permissible for me to
stay with him or not?

The shaykh may Allaah preserve him answered as follows:

If the marriage contract was made at the time when he was not praying,
then it is not valid, and if this is the case then she has to keep away from him. If he
becomes Muslim, the contract is renewed, and if he does not become Muslim, then Allaah
will send her a Muslim man who is better than him.

Question:

If she got married to him when she too was not praying, and he was not
praying, does this make the marriage null and void?

Answer:

If they were following a certain religion, then the marriage remains
valid, but if they were not following any religion and were murtadd (apostates), then many
of the scholars say that the marriage of apostates is not valid, because they are not
following any religion, neither Islam nor the religion from which they apostatized.

Question:

If the husband who is praying clearly tells his wife that he is praying
only for her sake, is that sufficient to count him as a murtadd (apostate), or should she
go by what she sees, which is that he is praying?

Answer:

It seems to me that he is praying to Allaah to please her. This does
not means that his whole prayer, the standing, bowing, prostrating and duaa,
is directed towards her. He is praying to Allaah to please her, and that does not make him
a mushrik. And Allaah knows best.

Source

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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