She is going to get married, and her hymen was broken without her committing any immoral action

Question: 84364

I came from a religiously-committed family and I am also religiously-committed, but now I am living in a state of fear because I am soon to get married to a young man who is also respectable. The reason is that I think my hymen may have been broken – without committing any immoral action, Allaah forbid. Should I tell him about that (although it will be difficult for me) or should I leave it until the wedding night and not tell him? I do not know what to do, please advise me. May Allaah reward you with good.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

So long as
you are chaste and have not committed any immoral action – praise be to
Allaah – then you do not have to tell him, and you should not worry about
that. The hymen may be broken due to jumping, insertion of fingers, heavy
menses, lengthy spinsterhood and other reasons that the fuqaha’ have
mentioned.

See:
al-Mabsoot (5/8), Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’ (5/47) and al-Fataawa
al-Kubra (3/88)

The husband
should think well of his wife if he finds out that she is not a virgin. As
we have mentioned, virginity may be lost due to causes other than immoral
actions. If we assume that he asks you, you can answer him in a way that
will ward off doubt from his mind. Rest assured that Allaah will support His
believing slave and help him. See also question no.
40278.

The Standing
Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: A Muslim woman had an accident when
she was small in which her hymen was broken. She has got married but the
marriage has not yet been consummated. In another case, a woman suffered the
same accident, and now religiously-committed brothers are coming to propose
marriage to her. They are both confused about their situation. Which is
better – should the married woman tell her husband before consummation of
the marriage or should she keep quiet? And should the one who is not married
yet go ahead with it, lest it become known and people think badly of her?
This happened when she was small and was not yet accountable. Or is this
regarded as deceit and cheating? Should she tell those who come to propose
or not, for the sake of getting married?

They
replied: there is no shar’i reason why she should not conceal it, then if he
asks her after consummation of the marriage, she can tell him the truth. End
quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (19/5)

We ask
Allaah to help you and guide you.

And Allaah knows
best.

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