She loves her husband madly and is looking for a solution

It is wonderful to see Muslim homes that are filled with love
and compassion. When we see that love and compassion between the spouses in
particular, we are very happy about it, because that love and compassion
will have a good effect on the family members. One of the greatest signs of
Allah is that He created woman from man and it is a sign of His wisdom that
He created woman to be a course of comfort and tranquillity for the man.
Allah, may He be exalted, mentioned that with regard to Adam and Hawwa’, and
all people in general, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is He Who has created you from a single person (Adam),
and (then) He has created from him his wife (Hawwa (Eve)), in order that he
might enjoy the pleasure of living with her”

[al-A‘raaf 7:189].

This has to do with Adam and Eve. With regard to humanity in
general, Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you
wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them”

[ar-Room 30:21].

And Allah, may He be exalted, created love and compassion
between the spouses, as He says at the end of the verse from Soorat ar-Room
quoted above (interpretation of the meaning):

“…and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily,
in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect”

[ar-Room 30:21]. 

Ash-Shanqeeti (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

Allah, may He be exalted, says: “and
(then) He has created from him his wife (Hawwa (Eve)), in order that he
might enjoy the pleasure of living with her”

[al-A‘raaf 7:189]. 

In this verse we see that Allah created Hawwa’ from Adam so
that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her, i.e., find comfort in
her. Elsewhere Allah said that He created the spouses of Adam’s offspring
likewise. That is the verse in which Allah says (interpretation of the
meaning):

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you
wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has
put between you affection and mercy.”

[ar-Room 30:21]. 

Adwa’ al-Bayaan, 2/304, 305 

Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

There is no love between any two souls greater than that that
exists between the spouses. 

Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 3/525 

But we do not mean that the love should be “mad” or “crazy”
as people say. Rather it should be moderate and appropriate. Zayd ibn Aslam
narrated that his father said: ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab said to me: O Aslam, do
not let your love (for anyone) be obsessive and do not let your hatred (of
anyone) be destructive. 

I said: How is that? 

He said: When you love, do not go to a level of obsession as
a child does with the thing he loves, and when you hate, do not hate in such
a way that you want your opponent to be destroyed and doomed. 

Narrated by ‘Abd ar-Razzaaq in al-Musannaf, 20269; its
isnaad is saheeh. 

The Rightly-Guided Caliph (‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab) gave this
advice because obsessiveness in love (loving madly) has negative effects on
the one who loves and the one who is loved. Its effects on the one who loves
are: 

(a)His thoughts are focused on his
beloved, which causes him anxiety and tension, and this distraction causes
him to waste time and leads to mental and physical illness

(b)Another of the effects of
loving madly is that it makes the one who loves turn a blind eye to any
shortcomings in his beloved’s performance of duties and to his committing
any haraam actions. And if his beloved asks him to join him in his actions,
then his insane love will lead him to do so.

(c)Another of the negative effects
of this love is that it dominates his heart in such a way that there is no
room for love of Allah and His Messenger, which is the means of his
salvation, let alone love for anyone else such as family and children

(d)Another of the negative effects
is that the one who is madly in love cannot cope with the absence or illness
of his beloved, let alone his death!

The negative effects of insane love on the one who is loved
include the following: 

(a)He may suffer tension because
of the lover’s insistence on seeing him and sitting with him, which may lead
to his neglecting his work or falling short in tasks on which he should
focus his mind and heart, such as seeking beneficial knowledge and doing
righteous deeds.

(b)Another of the negative effects
it may have on him is that he will never find this lover offering him
sincere advice; rather he will turn a blind eye to his mistakes and
shortcomings. As it is said, your love of a thing makes you blind and deaf!

(c)Another of its negative effects
is that if he responds to the one who loves him, he will waste his time with
him, and if he does not, he will cause him anxiety, which may lead him to
hate him in the end.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him)
said: 

If a man’s heart is attached to a woman, even if she is
permissible for him, he will remain captive to her and she will be able to
control him as she wishes. Outwardly he will appear to be her master because
he is her husband, but in reality he is her captive and slave, especially if
she realises his need for her and his love for her, and that he cannot find
any alternative to her. In that case she will have control over him like an
unjust, domineering master over his weak slave who cannot free himself from
him, or even worse! Because captivity of the heart is worse than physical
captivity and enslavement of the heart is worse than enslavement of the
body. The one whose body is enslaved will not care if his heart is free and
at peace; rather he may be able to find away to freedom. But if the heart
that is in control of the body is that is enslaved and infatuated with
something other than Allah, then this is true humiliation, the worst kind of
captivity and enslavement to that which enslaved the heart. … True freedom
is freedom of the heart and true enslavement is enslavement of the heart,
just as true richness is richness of the soul. The Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Richness is not having a great deal of
accumulated wealth; rather richness is richness of the soul.” This applies
if what has captured his heart is something permissible; as for the one
whose heart is enslaved by something haraam, such as a woman or boy, this is
pain and suffering from which there is no way out, and these are the people
whose suffering will be the worst and their reward will be the least, for if
a person’s heart is devoted to something and remains attached and enslaved
to it, then this will cause him all kinds of evil and corruption that cannot
be enumerated except by the Lord of mankind, even if he manages to avoid
committing the greater act of immorality.

End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa, 10/185-186 

We are very happy to hear of your honouring your husband and
of your love for him, but we would be even happier if you made your love for
him reasonable. You should understand that bothering your husband, always
calling him, or insisting that he stay at home or not undertake a particular
trip will all cause him stress and make it difficult for him to get on with
different tasks in life.  We want there to be in your house a healthy
atmosphere of love that could help the family and future children, in sha
Allah, to achieve high goals and to strive to support His religion and be a
help to His righteous slaves. 

What we also advise you to do is: 

(a)Fulfil the religious duties
that are required of you and do naafil acts of worship too.

(b)Regularly recite the adhkaar of
the morning and the evening

(c)Seek knowledge by reading or
listening

(d)Call women among your
neighbours and relatives to Allah

(e)Try to have shar‘i love in your
heart towards Allah and His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) by following the commands, heeding the prohibitions, loving the
religion of Allah, defending it and spreading it among people, and having
natural love towards your parents and children.

All of that will give a meaning to your life that is more
sublime than devoting your life only to your husband and loving him only. 

We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to help you to do that which
He loves and which pleases Him, and to make the love and compassion between
you lasting and to bless you with righteous offspring, 

And Allah is the source of strength.