Childrens Upbringing
Is the female disregarded in Islam?
What is the ruling on disregarding and belittling females, based on the verses in which Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): {Wealth and sons are [but] adornment of the worldly life} [al-Kahf 18:46] {and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren} [an-Nahl 16:72] {[He] provided you with grazing livestock and sons} [ash-Shu‘ara 26:161]. And in a hadith, it says that we [women] form the majority of the people of Hell? I used to love girls, but I have become afraid that if I praise a girl, I will be going against the teachings of Islam, to the extent that I have started to criticise females, for fear of going against the verses, even though I am female myself. I used to love my brother’s little daughters and enjoy spending time with them, but now I seek refuge with Allah, lest I am regarding them as part of the adornment of this life, when Allah, may He be exalted, has only mentioned sons in such terms. Does the verse {And We have certainly honored the sons of Adam …} [al-Isra’ 17:70] include females too? Is this word bani (sons) like awlad (children), meaning that it includes both genders? Or is it like the words banin and banun (sons) which only refer to males?Children's Character
Many people are concerned about their childrens unstable characters and the effects of luxury on their personalities. How can we introduce strength and honour into our childrens characters?Why children rebel against parents and how to deal with it
I want to talk about an important matter, which is that children sometimes do not appreciate their father’s circumstances. I am twenty-three years old, and I have siblings, among whom is a girl who is twenty years old, but unfortunately she does not care about my father’s situation. My father is facing financial difficulty, but she says: I want such and such, and such and such, and I don’t care even if he has to go and ask of people in order to get me what I want, because this is my right over him. By Allah, my father is going through a lot of distress because of his worries about his children, and the situation in which he is living. What is your opinion about this? What advice can you offer to such children? Does this come under the heading of defiant disobedience towards parents, or are there other explanations for it? Please note that she gets angry with my father for various reasons, and I do not know how to deal with her.Her son apostatised from Islam and refuses to come back to the faith
I am from a religiously committed Muslim family. I have an uncle (my mother’s brother) who migrated to France to study at the age of twenty years. He settled there and is still living there, and he refused to come back to our country. He has been living there for thirty-five years, and unfortunately he has deviated from the religion of Islam. He stopped praying and fasting, and he does not even believe in the religion of Islam, and does not even follow any other religion. After my grandfather died, my grandmother travelled to visit him, and she decided to live with him and his Christian wife and children, who do not know anything about Islam. After staying with him for ten years, she tried to bring him back to the right path and persuade him to repent, but unfortunately it was without success. Until now she is asking: is there any sin on her and will she be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection for her son’s going astray from the religion of Islam?There is nothing wrong with celebrating in order to encourage children and teach them to pray when they reach the age of seven years
I have a friend whose daughter has reached the age of seven years, and she wanted to have a party for her daughter so as to tell her that she now has to pray, and to explain to her that the reason for this celebration and party is the prayer. I objected to her and pointed out that parties and gatherings are not a means of teaching the prayer; how can we teach our children how to pray and make them understand its importance by celebrating and having fun? If she were to promise her a party after she learns the prayer, so as to honour her, that would be closer to what is right, but doing it before she has learned the prayer is not appropriate. But she thinks that the party will encourage the child to pray, and she accused me of being unduly harsh and extreme. Is having a party before starting to teach the child regarded as a means of making the child love the prayer? Please tell us what is the correct view, with evidence.Raising children in an unrighteous environment
I try my best as a Muslim, but my husband says mean things against Islam, I try explaining things to him but he wont listen, he is educated whereas I am not, I do try and learn about Islam from the Quran and sunnah, but Im not perfect, I have 6 children three over the age of 13 and 3 under 9 yrs. how should I make myslef a better Muslim? and Instill it in my children as the older ones won't pray all they prayers. Sometimes ok most of the time it brings me down.How to Raise Children in Islam (Parenting Guide)
Could you please advise us about how to improve our manners, and raise our children to have good manners? As many of the scholars mentioned, they studied under their teachers for years to learn proper manners. I am very concerned because it seems that we are surrounded by bad examples and role models, and the standards of society are very low. I am a revert to Islam so I was not raised with good Islamic manners. I don’t have the knowledge or training to be a very good role model. My children’s TV watching is very restricted, but they still interact with cousins and friends who pick up bad words and attitudes from TV. We also educate our children at home. But as much as we shelter them and instruct them, they seem to pick up some of the attitudes of the greater society. I am torn between whether I should continue trying to remain patient and remind them gently, or I should become more strict to enforce better behavior. We would really appreciate any advice that you could offer.He wants to divorce his wife so that he will be free to focus on seeking knowledge
I converted to Islam few years ago and was married at that time , my wife is still non Muslim but she never opposed Islam , now i have a daughter she is 2 years , but i have a desire to dedicate my life to Dawa for that i have to go study overseas for 5 -6 years what is a verdict on leaving a child with my wife who doesnt mind my daughter to learn quran or pray but she opposes Hijab strongly and stubbornly , and what is a verdict on of a divorce and leaving that child with her and go seek knowledge , please because i have asked many people that seem to have knowledge but none gave a clear answerHow should the family deal with a disobedient son?
How should a son who is disobedient towards his parents be dealt with? How should they deal with a son who threatens to kill his mother and challenges his parents, and accuses his sister of promiscuity and zina, causes scandal for his family, and always argues with guests, insulting them, reviling them and threatening them?Suggested alternatives to electronic games
What are some fun and beneficial activities that we can do with our children, instead of them sitting at the computer?Will the Muslim be rewarded for refraining from sin whatever the case?
There is someone who avoids some haraam things, not for fear of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, but for fear of people, and he admits that he does that for the sake of people. For example, he avoids going to places where men and women mix freely, or to the disco, or to haraam parties, so that a certain person will not see him, and it is not for the sake of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and this person admits that. Is this regarded as minor shirk, or what? What about children who only pray so that their parents will be pleased with them, and they do not do it for Allah, may He be glorified and exalted?Spending Time Only Working
My husband works 7 days a week for many hours, and my twin babies and I never get any time with him. I’m wondering what Islam says about spending time with your wife and children instead of always wanting more and more money?Ruling on Muslim and Christian students coming together and reciting from the Qur’an and the distorted Gospel, then saying “ameen” to one another’s recitation
In my secondary school owned by a christian, a christian then a muslim every occasion even during their night prayers[before going to sleep], and the muslim would normally recite a chapter of the Quran[mostly Fatihah,nas,falaq and iqlas]and since they dont even understand they just say amin after the muslim finishes.Islamicly is this accepted as the muslims are normally looked as awkward when we dont agreeSerious consequences of falling short in raising children
My mother is not compassionate or understanding. Since we were small, she has treated us harshly and has never shown us an ounce of compassion, and we have grown up in this atmosphere. She has never supported me as a girl and has never taught me how to interact with suitors or with people in a feminine way. She never taught me many things pertaining to the life of a girl, and she has fallen short with us in many matters. Will Allah hold her accountable for that, as He will hold a son accountable for his defiance towards his mother and not being kind to her? I hope that you will reply.Dealing With Children Who are Heedless About Prayer
I want to make my children keen to pray, because they will pray once then forget about prayer many times. I always advise them and pray to Allah to guide them. How can I encourage them and make them love prayer?.Worried About the Corruption His Child May Be Exposed to in Secondary School
I have a son who is ten years old, and he is supposed to go to secondary school, but the school system is affected by many kinds of corruption. Is it better for him to study at home (homeschooling), even though the level of teaching may not be high, or should I let him go to the secondary school and be exposed to corruption?She is Suffering Because of Raising Her Illegitimate Children
I have been in a relationship with my husband for over 20 years. When we first met I was not a Muslim but Alhamdulillah Allah guided me to His beautiful deen. My question is that we have children, but Astagfirullah, 4 of them were born before I embraced and we were not married either. I have read recently that children born out of marriage have a certain amount of evil. Is this correct and is there anything I can do to help my situation as this is obviously a very serious matter. Also because my husband was not practicing and he did not for a number of years the children never grew up attending the Jummah salat. I did try my best in the early days but my husband was an alcoholic so this made it very difficult to teach myself, let alone the children. Now my other major worry is that they do not attend Jummah very much but they are over 16 and should not miss it at all.Should He Pray at Home so that His Children Will Pray With Him?
There is a mosque near our house where it is possible for us to offer the daily prayers, but I go there to pray Jumu‘ah (Friday prayers)and some of the daily prayers during the weekend. I have a son who is sixteen years old who does not pay much attention to praying; he only prays after asking him several times, and sometimes he ignores it. My wife's brother also lives with us; he is studying at the University. When I am at home, I try to lead the prayer so that my son and my wife's brother will offer the prayer on time; my wife and my two young daughters also pray with us. My question is: 1. What is the ruling on offering the prayer at home when there is no mosque very close to the house? 2. What is the ruling on offering the prayer at home in congregation instead of going to the mosque to pray, in order to make sure that the family members pray? 3. I know that the parents are responsible for making sure that the children learn religious knowledge and for making sure that they adhere to the rulings of Allah (may He be glorified and exalted). I am wondering whether there is a specific age after which the parents are no longer required to bear this responsibility. May Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) guide us all to the straight path, ameen. May Allah reward you with good.Recognizing Individual Differences Between Children?
There is no doubt that each individual has his own character that Allah has given to him. Although there are characteristics that are common to all human beings, people vary with regard to the way those characteristics are combined. My question is with regard to children: how can a father deal fairly with those differences and treat his children – male and female – equally when each of them has a different attitude and character that make the parents more favourably inclined towards some rather than others?.Young Man Complaining That Father Doesn’t Wake Him up for Fajr
My father does not wake me up for the Fajr prayer and I have reached the age of puberty. What should I do?