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A Christian woman married a Muslim man without a wali (guardian) and she is asking about the ruling on her marriage

Question: 211007

I am a Christian woman, recently married to a Muslim man. We were married in a cafe shop, as opposed to a Mosque. We had 2 witnesses which his friend bring with him. There was nobody from my side as a witness of marriage. We didnt sign any documents, contract. I never recieved any marriage cerificate. Also I agree for a 100 euro which never recieved. My husband has wife and 3 kids. He is living with them but he promised me before marriage that he will move to my house. He is not spending money on me, but he is intimate with me. Does the Muslim belief still see this as a “real” marriage? Please confirm as I am very concern to continue this relationship if marriage is not valid.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

The marriage contract in Islam cannot be valid unless it is
done by the wali (guardian) of the woman. This is usually her father or
someone who acts in his stead if he is not there, such as a grandfather,
brother or paternal uncle. 

The marriage contract that you mentioned was devoid of this,
hence it is not valid, and what must be done is to repeat the contract in
the presence of the guardian if you want to marry this man. 

If the guardian cannot be present, then he can appoint any
Muslim man to take his place and do the marriage contract on his behalf. 

See the answers to questions no. 159297,
173946 and 143511 

It is not stipulated in Islam that the marriage contract must
be done in the mosque; rather it may be done in any place, and there do not
have to be any witnesses on the woman’s side, as it is sufficient to have
two Muslims of good character as witnesses. But the marriage must be
announced publicly, and it is not valid to have an agreement to keep it

It is also not stipulated that the contract should be written
down, although this is required nowadays in order to protect the rights of
both spouses and to prove the marriage. But not writing it down does not
affect the validity of the marriage. 

The husband is obliged to give the wife the mahr (dowry) that
has been agreed upon, and to spend on her maintenance enough to provide her
with a place to live, clothing, and food, on a reasonable basis. If the
husband does not do these things, he is falling short and is sinning
according to sharee‘ah, but that does not affect the validity of the
marriage contract, if it has been done in the proper manner in the first

We appreciate your eagerness to ensure that your relationship
with this man is proper and legitimate. This is a sign of dignity and of a
desire for stability, far away from the kind of relationships that Allah has

We hope that this will lead you to find out more about the
true religion which will lead to your salvation in the Hereafter, namely
Islam, the religion of pure monotheism, that is based on worship of Allah
alone with no partner or associate. 

Worshipping Allah alone is the purpose for which Allah
created all of mankind. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of
the meaning):

“And I (Allah) created not the jinns and humans except they
should worship Me (Alone).

I seek not any provision from them (i.e. provision for
themselves or for My creatures) nor do I ask that they should feed Me (i.e.
feed themselves or My creatures).

Verily, Allah is the All-Provider, Owner of Power, the Most

[adh-Dhaariyaat 51:56-58]. 

And Allah knows best.


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