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His wife is asking him for a TV to relieve her boredom

Question: 3619

As Salaamu Alaikum,
I made an oath by Allah that I would not allow a TV in my home and I do
not have any desire for one. However, I am married and my wife is at home while I am at
work with nothing to do. We dont have children. I am not wealthy, so I dont have furniture
or decorations in the house yet. My wife desperately wants a TV to remove her boredom. She
is young and is not yet willing to devote all her time to studying Islam or Quran. This
issue is getting worse because she is becoming stressed from having nothing to fill her
idle time. I am afraid that this may provide Shaytan a way to break up my family. Is there
any advice that you can give to help my situation?
Jazakallahu Khayr

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

Subhaan-Allaah, how have Muslim women reached a state where they do not
know how to kill time, so they waste it and destroy the blessing of time which Allaah has
made available to them to fill it with worship, dhikr and good deeds, as He explains
(interpretation of the meaning): “And it is He Who has put the night and the day in
succession, for such who desires to remember or desires to show his gratitude.”
[al-Furqaan 25:62]

The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Make the most of five things before five others come: your life before your death,
your health before your sickness, your spare time before your work, your youth before your
old age and your wealth before your poverty.” (Reported by al-Haakim; see also
Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1077).

It is regrettable that a Muslim cannot find anything to do
other than committing the sin of watching TV programs that are filled with scenes of kufr,
nakedness, and singing. The one who looks at this tragedy will indeed see how accurate are
the words of the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in the saheeh
hadeeth: “There are two blessings of which many people have an unfair share: good
health and spare time.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5933).

You must exhort this woman, in a gentle manner, and remind
her, kindly, why she was created in this life. There follow a few useful suggestions which
include both serious pursuits and permissible forms of leisure activities.

Doing acts of worship such as reciting dhikr and wird, salaah, reading
Qur’aan, fasting, and thinking about the signs of Allaah in His creation.

Adopting an Islamic cause in the place where she is living, and taking
part in it, such as teaching Muslim girls, supporting an Islamic magazine by sending
articles, statistics and useful information of interest concerning Muslims in the West,
taking part in charitable projects to help Muslim orphans, widows, divorcees and elderly,
or joining a committee to help organize social programs and celebrations for Muslim girls
on Eid.

Finding righteous (female) companions to meet with and good (females)
neighbours to visit.

Reading Islamic books in particular and useful stories in general.

Taking part in da’wah activities, women’s activities and
preschool programs in Islamic centres.

Listening to tapes and lectures, writing summaries of them, and
distributing the summaries to anyone who could benefit from them.

Doing arts and crafts, and cooking items to be sold to raise funds for
the Islamic centre.

Taking an interest in computers and computer programs. This is a vast
field that can fill a lot of time, and the computer can be used to do a lot of good things
as well as providing entertainment in the form of permissible games.

Spinning, weaving, cutting out and sewing.

Gardening.

Exercising at home.

In all cases, you must resist pressures that may make you give in and
introduce that window of evil to your home. We ask Allaah to grant your wife a righteous
child in the near future, so that she may fill her time with taking care of him. May
Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

Source

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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