Does mentioning the deceased and grieving over him harm him in his grave?

It was reported that the Prophet
(peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: “The deceased is punished by the weeping of his family
for him.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1286). This was explained
as meaning, when a person had told his family to do that, as was done during the
Jaahiliyyah. And it was said that it meant, if their custom was to weep and wail and he
did not warn them. And it was said that it meant, he would feel hurt and saddened because
they were doing something that would not help them at all; it does not refer to the
punishment of the Fire. But simply mentioning the person, feeling grief and saying “Innaa
Lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raaji’oon (to Allaah we belong and unto Him is our
return)” – these actions are not included in this prohibition, because these
feelings are something that overwhelm a person, and he cannot help thinking of the
deceased, mentioning him, grieving for him and feeling sorrow because of his loss. If he
mentions him, says “Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raaji’oon,” and
prays to his Lord for patience and consolation and to be compensated with something
better, then Allaah will reward him for bearing this loss.