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Ruling on customs and traditions that go against sharee’ah or cause embarrassment

Question: 89642

There is a tradition some people observe during funerals. When someone who relates to two villages dies, they do the funeral then visit the relatives of the dead person. Then they quickly return to their village without any delay, they do not accept to stay at the relatives for hospitality because they think they it is not permissible for them to delay returning in this occasion.

Note that all of them in the two villages Muslims, most or all of them follow the Hanafi School of thought. They all hold same nationality and they may have womb relations.

My question is: has this habit any basis in Islam?
I hope you give me a detailed full answer. Because this habit sometimes causes embarrassment and other social problems.

Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah and his family.

There is nothing in sharee’ah that points to the customs you
mention in your question. It seems that these are things that people have
become accustomed to in their lives and they do not attribute them to
religion. It also seems that they have to do with psychological and social

Whatever the case, since these customs have no basis in
sharee’ah and especially since you mention in your question that the
hospitality asked about is not offered by the family of the deceased, which
is what is not allowed, then the people should not regard this as a sacred
law that cannot be changed or altered. That is because this custom
represents a shortcoming – of whatever extent – in the upholding of family
ties and visiting family and brothers. There is no real reason for falling
short in upholding these ties, especially since the problem may be caused
when the family’s relatives come to the village without coming to  visit
them. That may be a reason for the resentment and suspicion. 

Customs and traditions that clearly go against sharee’ah, or
which go against the general aims of sharee’ah, or which may lead to
misunderstandings and shortcomings, should be shunned and efforts should be
made to change them, which needs some wisdom and gentleness. 

Shaykh al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in
Risaalah fi Usool al-Fiqh (7): 

The basic principle with regard to customs is that they are
permissible, unless it is narrated in sharee’ah that they are forbidden. 

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (6/510): 

What every Muslim must do is not accept customs blindly,
rather he should measure them against sharee’ah. Whatever is approved of is
permissible for him to do, otherwise he should not do it. The fact that
people are accustomed to something is not evidence that it is permissible.
All the customs that people are used to in their lands or tribes must be
measured against the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Whatever Allaah and His
Messenger have permitted is permissible, and whatever Allaah has forbidden
must be abandoned, even if it is the people’s custom. End quote. 

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in
Tafseer Soorat al-Baqarah 2 (299): 

Tradition does not make something that is not prescribed
permissible, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “It is
not Al‑Birr (piety, righteousness) that you enter the houses from the back”
[al-Baqarah 2:189], even though that was their custom and they regarded
it as righteousness. The one who takes something as a custom and regards it
as righteousness has to measure it against the laws of Allaah. End quote. 

The scholars regarded adherence to customs and traditions
that cause hardship for people and lead to some evil consequences or
hardship and disputes and difficulty as blameworthy extremism, and as the
kind of affectation and going to extremes that is forbidden in Islam. 

It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be
pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: 

“Those who go to extremes are doomed.” He said it three
times. Narrated by Muslim (2670). 

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Sharh
Muslim (16/220): 

i.e., those who go to extremes and exaggerate in their words
and deeds. End quote. 

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said,
speaking of different types of extremism in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa

The fourth category is going to extremes in customs, which is
adhering too strongly to ancient customs and not turning to that which is
better than that. But if the customs are equal to others in serving a valid
purpose, then adhering to one’s own customs is better than turning to
foreign customs. End quote. 

And Allaah knows best.


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