If you want to deal with your toxic family member on the basis of justice, then it is permissible for you to respond in like to his unkind words. But if you bear it with patience, that will be better for you. If you want to turn enmity into love, then treat him well, if he treats you badly.


How to Deal with Toxic Family Members in Islam

Advice: Separating women from non-mahram* men in 
family visits

Cutting off ties with a non-Muslim sister

Belief in Allah

Belief in the Angels

Belief in Divinely-revealed Books

Belief in the Messengers

Torment and Blessing in the Grave

Paradise and Hell

The Signs of the Hour

Belief in the Last Day and the Signs of the Hour

Belief in the Divine Will and Decree

Belief in the Jinn, witchcraft and the evil eye

Belief

(Unity of) Divine Lordship

(Unity of) Divinity

Names and Attributes of Allah

Tawhid (Divine Unity)

Shirk and its different forms

intercession

Alliance and Amity, Disavowal and Enmity

Schools of Thought and Sects

Religions

Schools of Thought and Religions

Discusses what the Muslim must believe concerning Allah, may He be glorified, the rest of the six pillars of faith, and other matters of the unseen, and what he must avoid of matters that are opposed to that belief and contradict it.

Basic Tenets of Faith

Saheeh (sound) hadiths

Da'eef (weak) hadiths

Science of hadith

Commentary on Hadith

the words and deeds of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), with commentary and explanation of some hadiths; discussion of the level of authenticity of hadith (chain of narration and text) in terms of soundness and weakness; and guidelines on how that assessment is made.

Hadith & its Sciences

Quranic Exegesis

Virtues of Quran

Rulings on-Mus-hafs

topics having to do with the Holy Quran and its revelation, correct recitation (tajweed), commentary (tafseer) and its miraculous nature; virtues of the Quran; its soorahs and verses; rulings on the Mus-haf (physical copy of the Quran) and the way it is written; and so on.

The Quran and its Sciences

Khul' (divorce initiated by the woman)

Conditions of Marriage

Marriage Contract

Rulings on Marriage

Things which annul marriage

Engagment

Dowry

Mahram Relatives

Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage

Invalid Marriages

Kind Treatment of Spouses

Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives

Rights of spouses

taking back a divorced wife

Divorce

Custody

Breast Feeding

Waiting Period of Widow or Divorcee

Spending on those under ones responsibility

topics having to do with the Muslim family from its beginning: proposal and marriage, and conditions thereof; marital rights and duties such as maintenance and kind treatment; matters resulting from separation of the spouses, such as custody of children, &lsquo;iddah and so on; and highlighting invalid forms of marriage.

Fiqh of the family

Purity

Prayer

Poor-due or obligatory charity

Fasting

Pilgrimage

Vows

Sacrifices

Funerals and rulings on graves

Striving and migrating for the sake of Allaah

Acts of Worship

Business and Financial Transactions

Inheritance and distribution of the estate

Borrowing & Lending

Slavery

Guardianship, Representation

trusts

Forbidden Kinds of Wealth

Gifts and Presents

Insurance

Compensation

Employment for a Salary

Islamic Endowments

Transactions

Blood Money

Hadd punishment for slander

Apostasy

Adultery/fornication and Homosexuality

Punishment and Judicial Sentences

Killing by Mistake, Manslaughter

Felonies

Hunting

Rulings on art and acting

Rulings on sport, leisure and entertainment

Clothing, adornment and images

Races and games

Drinks

Food & Nourishment

Aqeeqah and rulings on the new-born

Medicine and medical treatments

Al-‘Aariyah (borrowing)

Lost Property & Illegitimate Children

Customs and traditions

Shahaadaat (testimonies)

al-Faraa’id (shares of inheritance)

Jurisprudence and Islamic Rulings

Sources for Islamic Rulings and Shariah

Innovations in Religion and Worship

Accountability

Usool al-Fiqh

what the Muslim must know and refrain from; what he cannot afford to be unaware of regarding acts of worship, interactions with others, customs and traditions, clothing, food, medicine, seeking medical treatment, and so on; and guidelines on deriving fiqhi rulings from religious texts.

Principles of Fiqh

Rulings on Tawbah

Love of Allah

Backbiting and Gossip

Sins of the Tongue

Supplications prescribed in Shareeah

Repentance

Ad’iyah Mahzoorah (forbidden du’aa’s)

Supplication

Virtues of deeds

Showing Off

Sincerity

The Heart Softeners

Al-Manaahi al-Lafziyyah (forbidden expressions)

Reading Quraan

Kissing-hugging

Manners of Greeting with Salam

Etiquette of eating and drinking

Etiquette of sneezing

Sleeping Manners

Etiquette of Marriage

Brotherhood in Islam

Names and Nicknames

Etiquette of Dreams

Manners of Speaking with Women

Relationships between the two genders

Honouring Parents

Neighbours Rights

Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners

Manners

Keeping Contact with Kinship

etiquette of hospitality

Etiquettes pertaining to Travel

Animal Rights

Praised Manners

Love and the steps that lead to immoral actions

Bad behaviour

Character and Morals

topics having to do with what the Muslim should seek to acquire of etiquette in his daily life (eating, drinking, sleeping and so on). This section also covers what the Muslim should develop of good characteristics, and points out the blameworthy characteristics that he should avoid when dealing with people.

This sections also deals with ways of rectifying one&rsquo;s heart; developing a connection with Allah, may He be exalted; and the hereafter.

Calling Muslims to Islam

Calling non-Muslims to Islam

Qualities of one who calls people to Islam

Means of Dawah

Enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil

Rulings on enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil

Inviting others to Islam

Manners of Seeking Knowledge

Various branches of knowledge

Seeking knowledge

Knowledge

seeking Islamic knowledge and the etiquette and means of doing so; Islamic attitude towards various branches of knowledge; ways of spreading Islam and conveying its message to all people.

Knowledge & Propagation

Psychological Problems

Social Problems

topics having to do with treating psychological illness, such as waswasah (whispers from the Shaytaan or compulsive thoughts), anxiety, nervous breakdown, suicide, and other family problems; discussing the main problems that Muslim men and women may face in their social relationships.

Psychological and Social Problems

Virtues and Merits

The Companions of the Prophet

Biography of the Prophet

The beginning of creation and wonders of creation

the beginning of creation and origin of creatures; events of the past; the life of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), his good attitude and kind treatment of people; characteristics of some individuals, groups and places.

Islamic history and biography

Childrens Upbringing

training oneself

topics having to do with the best ways of disciplining and elevating one&rsquo;s nafs (self) to attain levels of perfection; best ways of caring for children and protecting them from the dangers that surround them on all sides.

Pedagogy education and upbringing

topics having to do with caring for the best interests of the ummah and running its affairs, whether in terms of internal matters or its relationships with other nations, in accordance with the objectives of sharia (maqaasid ash-sharee&lsquo;ah).

Islamic politics

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